Paperback Writer welcomes Edythe Denkin, Ph.D. is author of the self-help relationship book, Relationship Magic. Edythe is also a Certified Marriage Counselor. Relationship Magic, is a set of tools in parable form for those wanting to keep or rekindle the love and communication in their relationships. Dr. Denkin understands that “Happily Ever After” does not just come naturally. It takes communication, honesty, and empathy. This book is based on her work with Imago Relationship Theory.
The host of “Catch Your Kids Doing Things Right,” a four-part television series in which she taught many of her techniques to a wide audience, she has been trained and certified as an Imago Relationship Therapist by Dr. Harville Hendrix, best-selling author of Getting The Love You Want, et al.
Edythe is also the author of Why Can’t You Catch Me Being Good?, a best-selling book from Adams Media that shows how to raise self-confident and well-behaved children
About the Book:
Relationship Magic: The Secret to Happily Ever After helps couples realize that long-term marital bliss does not “just happen” and that “happily ever after” is possible when couples learn to treat each other with respect, honor, and trust.
All couples go through phases in their relationships, but frequently they do not recognize and address them due to poor communication skills. Using a set of tools in parable form, Denkin teaches couples to stop negative thinking based on childhood patterns of experience and communicate their expectations to their partners in a loving, respectful manner. Based on Imago Relationship Theory, Relationship Magic illustrates for couples how to mirror their partner’s words in order to increase empathy.
Relationships bring out unconscious behavior learned in childhood. Prince James and Princess Cinda take you into their lives and show you how you too can develop lasting love. Acquiring an awareness of your reactions can help you and your partner feel loved rather than rewounded by old childhood issues.
Welcome to Paperback Writer.
Would you share with us how you came up with the idea for your book?
I came up with the idea for Relationship Magic after working with couples for 25 years. I realized that I needed to come up with some easy to understand principles for couples. I was working with kids and I knew that story telling was the best way to teach them new principles. I knew then that story telling would also work with adults to help lead them to new understandings.
Was it a light bulb moment or something that you thought about for a very long time?
I thought about it for a long time. I knew a fairy tale could get the point across effectively without being threatening to the reader.
How did you come up with the title?
My publishing partner, Amy Collins, and I were tossing ideas back and forth and when she mentioned “Relationship Magic”, we both knew it was perfect.
How did you find an agent and publisher?
I was introduced to my agent many years ago by a family member. He helped me find a publisher (Adams) for my first book. The second book was being written and I knew I did not want to go through the process of being rejected by 20 publishers before I found a publisher. Sp I decided to launch my own publishing company and publish Relationship Magic under Destiny Press.
Who reads your work in progress?
My publishing partners, my editors, my intuitive coaches, my husband, my son. It was their encouragement that really made a difference.
Who made a difference in the book’s quality?
I had to get an experienced, professional editor. It made all the difference. I learned through this process that writers sometimes like to do everything. They think they can write and edit. I have learned that writers should write and let editors edit. It is very important to realize that you do not have to do it all.
How long did it take you to complete the first draft?
I worked on Relationship Magic’s manuscript first draft for four years.
How long did it take from start to publication?
I started in 2003 and it was published in Jan 2008. It took 10 months from first manuscript, through the editing and design process to get to the final printed book on the bookstore shelves.
Do you have any advice for new authors?
Go with your idea, take it one step at a time, don’t give up and keep moving no matter what.
Thank you, Edythe for stopping by Paperback Writer on your virtual book tour. I wish you continued success through the rest of you tour.
RELATIONSHIP MAGIC VIRTUAL BOOK TOUR ’08